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When Behaviour Shapes a Life



As a teacher, I have watched generations of children walk into my classroom with their own strengths, quirks, and sparks of brilliance. Each one brings something unique—some show it in their writing, some in their curiosity, some in the quiet sincerity with which they try. It is heartwarming to see them work hard and to witness their thoughts take shape on paper. Yet, even in this beautiful mix, there are always a few who drift—held back not by lack of ability, but by low motivation, inconsistency, or the absence of behavioural grounding. And this, I have realised, mirrors life. Some move ahead, some find their rhythm, and some continue to struggle because the drive to push themselves is missing.


The real challenge, however, lies not just in academics but in behaviour. As a class teacher, I often find myself becoming a surrogate mother, trying to understand how children speak to one another, how they form friendships, how they handle anger, disappointment, or confusion. Their behaviour often speaks louder than their words. They pick up language from peers, from social media, from environments we cannot always control. Sometimes what we hear shocks us; sometimes it saddens us. Yet the hardest part is understanding what is truly going on in their minds, because children rarely say what they feel—they show it.


Parents face another layer of this challenge. Between work, responsibilities, and the constant rush of life, they try their best to be emotionally present. Despite this, children still pick up habits we wish they wouldn’t—abusive language, disrespect, disinterest, or poor emotional control. It isn’t always because of bad parenting or bad teaching; it is often because children today are growing up in a world full of noise, distraction, and influence. They need guidance more than ever.


So what can we do? The answer lies in small, intentional steps taken both at home and in school. For teachers, observing before correcting makes all the difference. A child’s behaviour is a message, and when we pause long enough to understand it, our response becomes kinder and more effective. Consistency in classroom expectations also helps enormously; predictable boundaries give children a sense of safety.


Parents, even with busy schedules, can bring about meaningful change through a simple ten-minute, no-phone bonding ritual every day. These quiet moments build trust and help children feel understood. Equally important is watching what children consume—their media, their conversations, their digital spaces—because these shape their behaviour more than we realise.


In the end, behaviour matters far more than grades. It becomes the signature a child carries into adulthood. When parents and teachers work together—with consistency, compassion, and awareness—we don’t just shape students. We shape human beings who know how to speak kindly, handle emotions with maturity, and walk through life with dignity.


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