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Coexisting with difference

 Coexisting with Difference

by Nidhi Guglani 


Everyone sees life differently. We might be standing in the same room, sharing the same conversation, working on the same project—but the way we perceive what’s happening can be completely different. It’s this perspective that shapes everything.


Look at any group—within a workspace or a family—and you’ll find sets of people reacting in their own ways. Some bond over shared gossip, others just enjoy each other’s company. Some remain neutral, while a few carry critical views about everyone around. And all of this unfolds simultaneously, without one version being completely right or wrong.


What’s “right” is often just a matter of viewpoint. We’ve created our own definitions of right and wrong, polite and rude, assertive and submissive. One person dominates a room, another barely speaks. One is always kind, another too blunt. That’s just how people are—different, unpredictable, layered. God seems to have created every kind of temperament for reasons we may never fully understand.


So naturally, navigating people becomes one of the hardest parts of life. You can’t please everyone. You may lead a team by being calm and respectful, creating a joyful environment. Or you may get the job done by being strict—even if it makes you unpopular. Both approaches get results, but the experience of the people involved differs. Sometimes, efficiency costs empathy. And sometimes, patience buys peace.


At the core of it, life is about learning to live with others. The more comfortable we feel with those around us, the lighter life becomes. The opposite—being stuck in tense, stressful environments—only weighs us down. It also affects our mental health far more than we realize. So maybe the real task isn’t to change people, but to learn how to be around all kinds of them without losing ourselves.


Most of us divide life into two big chunks—work and home. Some people juggle both. Others live entirely in one space. Some come home only to rest, not to engage. And some stay home all day, never resting at all. But there’s a third space we don’t talk about enough: the space where relationships are built. Family time, quiet moments, shared understanding—this is where we grow each other, not just function alongside one another.


Life doesn’t stop. Work continues. So do chores. So do misunderstandings. But somewhere in between, if we can try to understand people a little better—not to fix them, but just to coexist—it makes all the difference.


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